The following questions are those that most first-time baby shower planners ask, so they should help you along the way.

Who should host the baby shower?
Tradition, as well as Emily Post, has said that a family member does not host the shower. However, like most things, this has changed. It is very common for a mother or sister to plan and host the shower for a family member.

Who pays for the shower?
The hostess provides the shower as a gift for her friend or family member. She will absorb all the costs, but could organize a pot luck buffet to minimize the expenses.

Do I have to give the expectant mother a gift?
As mentioned above, the shower is your gift to the mother-to-be, so it isn't necessary for you to provide a gift. However, if you would like to give her something, it is entirely up to you but it isn't expected.

Where should the shower be held?
Showers are usually held at the house of the hostess. However, if the mother-to-be has requested otherwise, there is no harm in following her wishes. Remember that the baby shower is a celebration for her and she is the priority.

When is the best time to host the shower?
It is best to host the shower about one to two months before delivery, but check with the mother-to-be to see what works best for her.

How should the invitations be sent?
Invitations can be sent by mail or email. It is often common for guests to be invited by phone. If you are sending email invitations, make sure the recipient checks her messages often. Invitations should be sent with enough notice for guests to RSVP.

Who should be invited?
The baby shower you're planning is probably not going to be a surprise, so you can go over the guest list with the mother-to-be. Usually anyone from family, friends, and co-workers are invited. It is possible to host showers for friends only or family only.

Should a friend who has miscarried be invited?
This is a sensitive area and it is best to speak directly with the guest. Be considerate and kind when you ask her if she is up to socializing and would like to attend the shower. It is always difficult to predict how someone may react, so be as gentle as possible.

For more baby shower planning information, take a look at our baby shower guide. You will find everything you need to plan and host a wonderful shower.